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Types of NLP Metaprograms

In the last blog, we learnt about NLP Metaprograms. Here, we will explore the different types of Metaprograms in NLP that will prove beneficial to you in the long run. So, are you ready?

While I can’t put forward all the different types of NLP Metaprograms out there in NLP, here are a few mentioned below:

  • Towards and Away From.   Some people prefer to move towards pleasure, while others prefer to move away from pain.
  • Options and Procedures.  Some people like to make up things as they go along, while others prefer a routine.
  • In-Time and Thru-Time.    Some people prefer to be “in the moment” and fully engaged, while others are planning their next moves and future.
  • Internal Frame of Reference and External Frame of Reference.  Some people prefer judgments based on their own frame of reference, while others prefer to make judgments based on other people’s frame of reference.
  • Self and Others.   Some people are more self-centered while others are more other directed.
  • Detail and Global. Some people prefer the details, while others prefer a map of the bigger picture.
  • Feeling and Thinking.  Some people prefer to feel their way through things and rely on intuition, while others prefer to think their way through things.
  • Sameness and Difference.  Some people easily see how things are the same, while others more easily see how things are different.

When you’re selling a product

If you’re selling a product, you can promote in two ways, by what it does or by what it doesn’t do. You can sell by stressing that they’re fast, sleek, comfortable or you can emphasize that they don’t use much gas, don’t cost much to maintain and are particularly safe in crashes. The strategy you should use depends entirely upon the strategy of the person you’re dealing with.

Ask someone else how he knows when he’s done a good job.

For some people, the proof comes from the outside. The boss pats you on the back and says your work was great. You get a raise. You win a big award. Your work is noticed and applauded by your peers. When you get that sort of external approval, you know your work is good. That’s an external frame of reference.  For others, the proof comes from inside. They ‘just know inside’ when they’ve done well.

Working Style

Everyone has his own strategy for work. Some people are not happy unless they’re independent. They have great difficulty working closely with other people and can’t work well under a great deal of supervision. They have to run their own show. Others function best as a part of a group. We call their strategy a cooperative one. They want to share responsibility for any task they take on. Still others have a proximity strategy, which is somewhere in between. They prefer to work with other people while maintaining a sole responsibility for a task. They’re in charge but not alone.

By understanding this pattern, you can figure out where your most enjoyable work environments would be.

If you ever give a compliment and it seems like somebody doesn’t believe you, it might be because they are using an internal frame of reference.  You also can check this in yourself.  For example, do you put more stock in how you rate your performance or do you look to feedback from others? Think about it.

Over to you

I have shared few of the NLP Metaprograms with you. What do you think? By reading up on these different types of NLP Metaprograms, you can understand how you can deal with people around you or at work more effectively and efficiently. We cover more on these in our NLP programs. Have a look at our upcoming programs or  submit your queries here. And let me know how you would like to use NLP to live life better.

NLP Meta Programs

What are NLP Meta Programs?

You can’t help noticing how differently people react to the same thing. You tell a motivational story, some people get motivated and some don’t. When you crack a joke, some people laughs and some people don’t.

The question is why people respond so differently to identical messages. Why does one person see the glass as half-empty and another see it as half-full?

The answer is META PROGRAMS.

Our brain processes information much the way a computer does. It takes fantastic amounts of data and organizes them into a configuration that makes sense to that person. Meta programs operate much the same way in our brain. To communicate with a computer, you have to understand its software. To communicate effectively with a person, you have to understand their meta programs.

Meta means over, beyond, above, or on a different level – i.e. operating at an unconscious level. Meta Programs are deep-rooted mental programs, which automatically filter our experience and guide and direct our thought processes, resulting in significant differences in behaviour from person to person. They define typical patterns in the strategies or thinking styles of an individual, group, company or culture.

They guide and direct our thought process and behavior. They determine how we motivate ourselves, make decisions, buy things, what we are interested in, how we manage time, how long we stay in a job or relationship, our effectiveness with tasks and how we solve problems.

They are represented in our language. They are represented in our gesture, they are represented in the way that we act, and the way that we behave.

What are the benefits of identifying people’s meta programs?

• You can improve your communication skills by learning NLP Meta Programs. They’ll help you understand the ways that people respond to people, data, things, and situations.

• Meta programs helps you understand how people sort and make sense of the world. They also help you understand your own values, beliefs and behaviours.

• They’ll also help you understand why you respond the way that you do.

• Knowing someone’s meta programs can actually help you clearly and closely predict people’s states, and therefore predict their actions.

• Knowing someone’s meta programs can help to create rapport and to talk more precisely into that person’s map of the world.

In our NLP training we show people how to use these meta programs in order to motivate people, influence people and manage them more effectively. Have a look at our events page to see if you can attend one of our upcoming events to realize the potential of NLP in your life.

In our next blog, I’ll share a few meta programs with you. Stay tuned!

NLP Submodalities

NLP Submodalities: Coding the Human Brain

We experience the world through our five senses i.e. what we see, hear, feel/touch, smell and taste. They are also termed as VAKOG:

Visual – See
Auditory – Hear
Kinesthetic – Feel/Touch
Olfactory – Smell
Gustatory – Taste.

In NLP, we call them modalities.

These 5 senses or modalities have a finer details in it, which are called Submodalities.

Defining NLP Submodalities

Submodalities are the building blocks of our senses. These finer details lead our senses. We create the representation of the world through these finer details.

Submodalities are literally the ways that our brains sort and code our experience. In order to explain the concept of submodalities, you need to think of a pleasant experience.

If you see a picture of the experience, you are using the visual submodality.

Identify whether the picture is in color or black and white. Is the picture panoramic or in a photo frame? Is the memory in the form or a movie or is it a still picture? Is the picture at a distance, or close by? Is the picture dark or bright, in focus or out of focus? This is the visual inner representation of the memory.

When you are able to hear the sounds in the memory, you are using the auditory submodality.

Identify whether the sound is soft or loud, thin or full , timbre or resonant. What is the direction of the sound? Is the sound stereo or mono, clear or dull, moving fast or slow? Identify all aspects of the sound. This is the auditory inner representation of the memory.

If you can also feel the sensations within that memory, you are using the kinesthetical submodality.

Identify the intensity of the feelings, and the texture on your skin. If the feeling had shape, what would the shape be? If the feeling had weight, what would the load be? Did the experience feel hot or cold? Which part of the body experienced a sensation? Identify all aspects of the feeling. This is the kinesthetical inner representation of the memory.

For instance, we are more likely to remember a large bright picture than a small dull one.

Importance of NLP Submodalities

When we change the coding in our thinking, we are changing the meaning. When the meaning changes, our State changes. When our State changes, our responses change. Our state determines our behaviour. When we do different things, we can change our reality and our personal world.

In NLP, we use submodalities to overcome our unwanted habits, behaviours, phobias, addictions, etc. You can literally use submodalities in all areas of your life. In fact unknowingly you are using it. We have already talked about some of the submodalities like the NLP Swish Pattern in our blogs, but if you’re new to the topic and interested in learning more about NLP Submodalities as well as NLP, sign up for one of our upcoming NLP Practitioner Certification Programs.

Tell us what you think of NLP Submodalities. We would love to hear from you [ contact us].

Going Vs Growing

GOING V/S GROWING: Are you GOING or GROWING through life?

We are gifted with a beautiful life.

The thing is, it doesn’t wait for you to cherish its beauty, as it keeps moving. It’s your responsibility to come forward and give value to it. We have two choices when we live it. Either we can GO through life or GROW through life.

GOING

The people who GO through life just wait for the things to happen. They do not take the responsibility to take the charge of their life. They just wants to live a risk-free life. They are afraid of failure. One question haunts them all the time, “What if it does not work?”.

They prefer to live in their comfort zones.

It’s not that they do not have goals. They do have. They wish to live a great life. The problem with these people is, they just wish and do not take the necessary steps to achieve their goals.

They do not want to face the problems. They prefer to avoid them but the problem is, the problem don’t avoid them. It keeps on stacking one after one, and as a result they end up with bigger problems.

When it comes to learning, life gives them a lot of opportunities to learn but their approach towards learning is “I know everything” and that stops their growth. They are missing the key element in their life and that is FLEXIBILITY.

Their focus is more on “what they don’t have”, rather than focusing on “WHAT THEY DO HAVE”. They believe in scarcity. They always blame the events or circumstances for why things are not happening in life.

You must have come across with these kind of people. In fact, lots of people fall in this category. Their approach towards life is pessimistic. You will hear few statements from them like,

“It’s difficult. I can’t do it”

“Life is very tough”

“Poor will always remain poor and Rich will always remain richer”

“There are very less opportunities in life”

“Everybody cannot achieve their dreams”

GROWING

The people who GROW through life make things to happen. They take the responsibility and take the charge of their life. Their thinking pattern is , “What if It works?” and as a result they GROW in their life.

These people sees possibilities in their life. Their approach towards life is optimistic. In stead of waiting for the opportunities to appear infront of them, they create opportunities. They make things happen. They do have goals and know how to achieve them. They are the achievers.

It’s not that they do not face problems. In fact, they do face the same problems which others face. What makes them different from others is their attitude towards life. They know that not always life will be on their side. There will be some ups and downs and they just enjoy all the problems and challenges life throws on them and successfully overcome them.

Their focus is more on “WHAT THEY DO HAVE”, rather than focusing on “what they don’t have”. They have an attitude of gratitude towards everything. They are always grateful to each and everything that happens in their life. Be it good or bad. They believe that, “Whatever happens, happens for a reason”.

They believe in abundance. They strongly feel that everybody is blessed with all the great things he/she is aspiring for. They just need to believe in it and keep growing.

They believe in CONSISTENT Action, Determination and Persistence. They are very flexible when it comes to learning. They don’t see from whom, when or where it is coming. They just grab it. They know that the moment they stop learning, they will stop growing.

You must have come across with these kind of people. You will hear few statements from them like,

“If others can do it, then even I can do it”

“Everybody can achieve their dreams, if they believe in themselves”

“I will not know, unless I do it. So, lets do it”

“Lets create the opportunities”

The good news is, even though you are going through life, you still have a choice to grow more. Better late than never. Choice is yours. Join me at one of my upcoming events on Going Vs Growing , and I can show you how NLP can help you get out of your comfort zone to achieve your goals.

Keep GROWING!

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What is NLP Swish Pattern?

In NLP we use a technique called Swish Pattern to break our unwanted habits or behaviours . A Swish Pattern is a technique that provides the unconscious mind with a choice; the old behaviour or a new more compelling behaviour. For a Swish Pattern to work, all that matters is that it’s an exact behaviour that you would like to change – a behaviour that happens in a specific context that you’d like to replace with the choice of a new positive and empowering response.

Swish Patterns are quick and easy.

The swish pattern is a form of pattern interrupt designed to assist us in changing direction – to interrupt the pattern we have been running (problem state or behaviour) and replace it with a more useful pattern (desired state or behaviour). It works by changing your focus just when you are about to drop into the old habit unconsciously, putting a newly-introduced desirable habit into your conscious mind as a substitute. This interruption changes your focus and makes you consciously aware of what you are about to do.

Remember, whenever you desire to break a habit, it is very important to substitute a more desirable habit in its place. Trying to break a bad habit without substituting some desirable alternative in its place leaves a void, and the unconscious may try to fill the void by bringing back the old bad habit or another unwanted behaviour in its place.

With a Swish Pattern, once you know the trigger you can give yourself a choice, a more compelling choice and thus your thinking is re-directed in a more resourceful way every time you experience that specific ‘trigger’ in a given context.

Each person will have his own set of bad habits. It can be smoking, gossiping, nail biting, overspending, etc. Breaking those bad habits becomes very difficult. Swish patterns can help you to overcome your bad habits.

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The swish pattern directionalizes the brain. Human beings have a tendency to avoid unpleasantness and move towards pleasantness. When you directionalize your brain, your behavior has a very strong tendency to go in the same direction.

The swish works best when it’s done rapidly. Why? Because brains don’t learn slowly – brains learn quickly.

Here’s a quick example:

Let’s say you want to go to the gym to get the much coveted 6-pack abs. But alas, you aren’t anywhere your goal because you are lazy, and every time it’s time to get to the gym, you procrastinate.

Does that sound familiar?

So here’s what you need to do, a. k. a. a swish pattern. Remember, swish pattern is a part of sub-modalities we cover in our NLP Practitioner Certification Program, so to learn more you have to sign up.

Getting back to our example, we’re discussing how your laziness is hindering you from getting those 6-pack abs. So what can you do?

First, understand the reasons (or triggers) that make you avoid going to the gym. Maybe you have to get up early, or you have to pack up your gym bag, something you abhor.

Now we apply Swish pattern. We work on the desired outcome. Visualize yourself with those 6-pack abs. Photoshop yourself with those abs, or just imagine. So now every time you think you have to rise early or pack up a bag to go to the gym, instead think of yourself flaunting those 6-pack abs.

That’s the beginning.

Next, we intensify those visuals with aides like potential comments you might receive from others around you, gawking at your 6-pack abs. Imagine your partner swooning over your new physique, or your colleague commenting how healthy and sleek you look. Those comments will intensify the need to go to the gym, thus breaking your unwanted habit of not going to one.

Sounds simple enough, right?

Well, it is, but you need a good grasp of NLP elements to make it work. So register for our upcoming NLP Practitioner Certification Program, and apply Swish patterns (and more!) in your daily life to live a better life.

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You are what you think: Think Wisely

“I am stupid”

“That person is better than me”

“I can’t do this”

“My life is useless”

“People don’t understand me”

All these are few of the phrases we use on daily basis and guess what, these things keep on happening in your life because you are what you think you are. You create it artfully. So be careful while you are thinking.

If you keep saying the same sad small story, you will be living that same sad small story. So think greater and the bigger, whatever you aspire to be. Fake it till you make it, as your brain doesn’t know the difference between what is real and what is unreal.

So the good news is you can play with your brain.

What’s important is YOU must believe in it.

Focus on what you want, rather than what you don’t want as your mind cannot process negative. E.g. if I ask you to not to think of a pink color elephant, your mind will venture straightaway to a pink color elephant. So you should focus on what you want and keep on holding that focus to eventually accomplish your goal.

Here are the key things that play a major role in your life:
– what you talk with yourself, i.e. Self Talk, and
– what you see, i.e. Visualization

1) Self talk

Make sure it’s positive. Use affirmative language in your self-talk, which means it should be in a present tense.

“I am a champion”

“I can handle the things very easily”

“The greatness is within me”

And the universal phrase of motivation – “I CAN!”

As you get into the groove of psyching yourself to be the best you can be, you will notice a change in yourself. With such a positive and confident attitude, you will be able to accomplish your goals, without discouraging thoughts pulling you down in the dump.

2) Visualization

Keep on visualizing what you want and who you want to be. Be careful about what you are visualizing. See the great and fabulous things about you. Hear the great things about you, and feel the great and fabulous things about you.

A picture says a thousand words, right? We all know that. As human beings, we give more importance to visuals than the written word. So that preference applies to trick your mind to living a better more-fulfilled lifestyle and life. Many take the help of vision boards – something like a scrapbook activity, where you can paste images of what you want from life on a board, and place that board at a place where you can see it at least once a day to keep you motivated throughout.

So start with a vision board now. You want the BMW Grand Torino as your car in the future – cut out its picture from a magazine or better, print it out and paste it on your board. You want to be like Warren Buffet, the bazillionaire – stick his picture on your board. You want to marry Deepika Padukone – no, let’s be realistic here, don’t paste her picture on your vision board.

There are more examples of self-talk and visualization that we talk in our NLP programs. Email us at info@surenkolkankar.com to see what our NLP programs can do to boost your mind and outlook in life.

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Think Big Achieve Big

Think Big, Achieve Big

We are the Masters of our lives. We decide our destiny simply by how we think. If we keep thinking small,compromising with life, that’s how our lives would be – small and unexplored. But if we can think BIG, we can achieve big too [Think Big Achieve Big].

People want to bring a change in their lives for a better life, but very few people take the steps necessary to bring about that change in their lives. The key to transforming your life lies in your thinking patterns. And that’s where NLP can help you.

It depends on how BIG you think as your energy flows where your attention goes. So, if you are thinking small, then definitely you are aiming small. To go big, and live life to the fullest, think BIG.

Change your vocabulary. Adopt the Vocabulary of Success, the Vocabulary of Big thinkers, the Vocabulary of Achievers. Since our mind and body are connected, our thoughts affect our physiology. Start walking like an achiever. Psyche yourself to be an achiever.

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Big thinkers are the leaders. They create revolution in their lives, and also in the society. Think Dhirubhai Ambani, Jack Ma, Steve Jobs, the list goes on. These stalwarts are recognized worldwide, not just for the businesses they created, but also for themselves as big personalities who continue to have an effect on us all, even posthumously.

Now you won’t achieve things, if you just keep on thinking big and don’t take any action. Your actions make the difference. It’s said

The Journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step”.

So take that first step. There is magic in thinking big and you can experience it too, once you start taking actions. With NLP training you can get more clarity on how to program yourself to think big. Later it will evolve into your attitude as you program yourself. And pretty soon you won’t have to make any conscious effort to think big – it will become your nature, and that’s the mark of an achiever.

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NLP Anchoring

NLP Anchoring – Your Switch to Success

Did you fail an interview, even though you were fully prepared for it? Does any event from your past still haunt you, and disrupt your normal life even today? Stop worrying because here is the good news for you – you can manage your own state the way you want. You can feel confident, happy, positive, energised or downright fabulous on demand, all with the power of Anchoring.

Anchoring lets you create a consistent triggering mechanism that will automatically cause you to create the state you desire in any situation without having to think about it. When you anchor something effectively enough, it will be there whenever you want it.

An anchor is simply a connection between a stimulus and a certain emotional response. In psychology, it is referred to as Conditioned response.

Here’s a common example:

When you drive up to a traffic signal and see a red light, there’s a good chance you brake without thinking about it. This is an unconscious process. While you probably had to think hard about it when you first learned to drive, the response is now automatic.

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When you see a national flag or listen to your favourite song, what happens? You have a different kind of feelings, isn’t it? it just changes your state without even thinking about it. These are all anchors.

Anchoring is reminiscent of Pavlov’s experiments with dogs. Pavlov took hungry dogs and put meat where they could smell it and see it but not get to it. This meat became a powerful stimulus to the dogs’ feelings of hunger. Soon they were salivating heavily. While they were in this intense state of salivation, Pavlov consistently rang a bell with a specific tone. Pretty soon he no longer needed the meat – he could just ring the bell and the dogs would salivate as if the meat itself were in front of them. He had created a neurological link between the sound of the bell and the state of hunger or salivation. From then on, all he had to do was ring the bell, and the dogs would literally go into a salivation state.

We are affected by anchors throughout our lives and go into a good mood or a bad one … feel motivated to do one thing or to do another … feel confident and resourceful or the opposite. We are responding to anchors, but we may not know what they are.
For example, when we approach a traffic signal and see the yellow light turn on, we slow down. When we see the red light turn on, we immediately put our foot on the brake. Over time, this becomes an unconscious process and is triggered whenever we see the traffic signal.

Another example of Neuro-linguistic anchoring, is that sometimes certain smells take us back to an experience in the past. If you have associated the pleasant memory of a family dinner in the past with a certain smell of food, when you come across that smell you immediately remember, see, hear and feel that pleasant experience.

Advertisements commonly use visual and auditory anchors. Sometime the wordings of an ad form such a strong anchor that you can remember the wordings when you hear a similar tune. TV and radio shows also use anchoring to keep the viewer or listener coming back.

You probably do it all the time without noticing. Every time you smile and compliment your restaurant wait staff, you’re creating an anchor that tells them you’re pleasant to serve. The next time you go to that restaurant, you’ll probably get better service just by repeating the anchor – a smile and a compliment.

Most of the time, we don’t know that anchoring is happening in our lives, since its outside consciousness. However, when we do it on purpose, we can train ourselves to overcome our unwanted habits or behaviours, such as quitting smoking, becoming comfortable with something that frightens us, or losing weight.

Creating these types of anchors in yourself and others can make a huge difference in your life.

Anchoring is one of the most powerful techniques NLP Anchoring has to offer.

These techniques and its applications are covered in depth with live demonstrations at our NLP Practitioner programs. Here are our upcoming programs – Events Calendar

The switch to change your life is within you.

Stay blessed!

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Overcoming Unwanted Habits with NLP

What we repeatedly do have a massive impact on our life. That’s when our HABITS come in. Our habits drive our life. We have a list of habits from the day we are born till now, some of them help us grow and some create messes in our lives. It is said “Good habits are difficult to form and easy to live with, and bad habits are easy to form but difficult to live with.” It really becomes very difficult for some people to get rid of their unwanted habits.

It ranges from minor to major unwanted habits. It could be nail biting, picking your nose, gossiping, overeating, overspending, smoking, and so on. We start them because in some way they make us comfortable and that’s the reason, our brain keeps urging us to repeat them.

You may be surprised to see how quickly you can learn to change your habits — if you really WANT to.

So often our habits serve us well. Do you remember learning to tie your shoelaces, for example?

It was a struggle at first, wasn’t it? It gradually became easier and easier.

I suspect that when you now tie your shoelaces you don’t even think about it most of the time, and often it is done in a rush.
That simple task, just like driving a motor vehicle or brushing your teeth, has become such a habit that you don’t have to consider it.

This is how our brains make things easy for us. But now and again we get into bad habits: we eat too much; we drink too much alcohol; we smoke and don’t know how to stop.

This is the time when NLP helps you get rid of such unwanted habits quickly and effortlessly. There are several techniques which can help you to overcome your unwanted habits. One of them is a Swish Pattern.

swish-pattern

The swish pattern is a form of pattern interrupt designed to assist us in changing direction – to interrupt the pattern we have been running (problem state or behaviour) and replace it with a more useful pattern (desired state or behaviour). “It works by changing your focus just when you are about to drop into the old habit unconsciously, putting a newly-introduced desirable habit into your conscious mind as a substitute. This interruption changes your focus and makes you consciously aware of what you are about to do.

Remember, whenever you desire to break a habit, it is very important to substitute a more desirable habit in its place. Trying to break a bad habit without substituting some desirable alternative in its place leaves a void, and the unconscious may try to fill the void by bringing back the old bad habit or another unwanted behavior in its place.

Another powerful NLP technique is Anchoring.

anchoring

Anchoring is one of a number of NLP techniques for bringing about significant change in a person’s life. Using the anchor, we can trigger certain behaviors, thought patterns, or emotions, and change aspects of our lives. Anchoring is an excellent technique for helping people stop cravings and get rid of bad habits.

An anchor is simply a connection between a stimulus and a certain emotional response. In psychology, it is referred to as Conditioned response.

Here’s a common example:

When you drive up to a traffic signal and see a red light, there’s a good chance you brake without thinking about it. This is an unconscious process. While you probably had to think hard about it when you first learned to drive, the response is now automatic.

When you see a national flag or listen to your favourite song, what happens? You have a different kind of feelings, isn’t it? it just change your state without even thinking about it. These are all anchors.

Most of the time, we don’t know that anchoring is happening in our lives, since its outside consciousness. However, when we do it on purpose, we can train ourselves to overcome our unwanted habits, such as quitting smoking, becoming comfortable with something that frightens us, or losing weight.

You probably do it all the time without noticing. Every time you smile and compliment your restaurant wait staff, you’re creating an anchor that tells them you’re pleasant to serve. The next time you go to that restaurant, you’ll probably get better service just by repeating the anchor – a smile and a compliment.

Creating these types of anchors in yourself and others can make a huge difference in your life. Swish pattern and Anchoring are a couple of the most powerful techniques NLP has to offer.

There are quite few more, which can bring the wonders in your life. These techniques and its applications are covered in depth with live demonstrations at our NLP Practitioner programs.

Overcome your unwanted habits and live a fulfilling life. Stay blessed.